The BUCKET LIST

WHAT EXACTLY IS A ‘BUCKET LIST’?

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I always thought that sounded like such a silly thing. Where did they come up with ‘bucket list’ anyway?

The most likely related is of course linking it to the movie, The Bucket List, in which two men escape from the cancer ward and set off to do some things on their ‘Bucket List’ before they die. (Great movie!) However, they say it started before that.

Wikipedia lists a number of other ‘bucket metaphors’ in computing. A bucket, also a bin, is sometimes a buffer, or place to discretely distribute data, and can be of fixed size. (That sounds boring so lets ‘kick’ that one out!)

But then I still wondered…where did bucket list come from? Well it’s mentioned on various sites that it is linked to the term ‘kick the bucket’, when one ‘dies’. So then my sanguine mind is thinking…where did ‘kick the bucket’ come from’? So here it is:

The term ‘kick the bucket’ is believed to have originated from the 16th century when people hanged themselves by standing on a bucket with a rope around their neck and then kicking the bucket away. The wooden frame that was used to hang animals up by their feet for slaughter was also called a bucket. So all that eventually led us to the BUCKET LIST…making a list of things to do before we ‘kick the bucket’! Not exactly a bright subject, but glad something constructive came from it!

So, with that being said, we talked about setting goals on my last (first) blog and now it brings us to the BUCKET LIST. Have you ever made one?

I have mentally made them in my mind. This year I started writing my first Bucket List. I feel so ‘on track’ with it. I have already crossed out two things! Starting a blog and having family pictures taken outside in the snow! (I know it sounds kind of dorky but this is my blog and my story)

So while combining the task of setting goals and making a bucket list this past week, I realized today that it was easier to make a bucket list first and then set the goals! So if you are having a difficult time setting your goals this year…make a bucket list first! It seems there is so much less stress listing all the fun and serious things attached to a bucket list.

I coach with a few people in our leadership group and tonight as I was guiding one of our members through setting her goals, it was amazing how much easier it was when you have a bucket list first! And she had a bucket list for her personal life and a bucket list for her business. I loved it! It was so much easier to just review the list and pick off the five most important from each list that we needed to start with! And it was actually fun! (Although choosing exercise as one of her top five personal goals was not so fun) We did successfully complete her goals and she is off to a fast start!

So one more thing about the bucket list…keep it fun and simple! Do a few bucket lists! Base them on the different seasons (winter, summer, etc) or hobbies (photography pics I want to take this year, foods I want to cook/bake/eat, etc) business or personal, individual or family…there are so many ways. So have fun with it and don’t forget to pick out the really important ones and attach a date to them…making them a goal!

Happy Bucket Listing!

Because of HIM…
Brenda

2014 is Here….are You?

Well…this is it!  For the last two years one of my goals has been to start a blog…AND I FINALLY DID IT! So what better blog to start with than how to set goals for 2014!

I was never a goal setter. I was never a dreamer. I was a wisher…a wishy-washy wisher at that! One year I would want to move…the next year I wanted to buy a house…the next year I was content in my apartment…and then one year I met Roy, which will be the topic of a whole different blog someday!

Roy was a dreamer. I was ‘just a mom’ who raised three children in a good environment, but probably not a great environment…and we never dreamed.  I had no way of helping my children achieve their dreams, therefore I never encouraged them!  I never remember dreaming as a child, unless you count the many hours of cutting pictures out of magazines and gluing them to a piece of paper…only to throw it away weeks later after I was tired of seeing it hang on my bulletin board.  (Do they still make those-haha?)  So where am I going with all this? Well whats the difference between a dream and a goal?

Dream according to the dictionary says: (1) a series of thoughts, visions, or feelings that happen during sleep; (2) an idea or vision that is created in your imagination and that is not real; (3) something that you have wanted very much to do, be, or have for a long time

Goals according to the dictionary says: (1) something that you are trying to do or achieve; (2) an area or object into which a ball or puck must be hit, kicked, etc., to score points in various games (such as soccer and hockey); (3) the act of hitting, kicking, etc., a ball or puck into a goal or the score that results from doing this  (We can scratch those last two since we aren’t talking about sports…..yet!)

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GOALS ARE REAL….DREAMS ARE NOT!  …and

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They say if you do not set any goals, you will hit them with amazing ability! So lets look at a simple way to set some goals for 2014!

Set some short term and long term goals! (One-three-six month and one-three-five year and/or attach them to a special event coming up…wedding, vacation, business mtg, etc)

Set Spiritual, Physical, Personal (one for you and one for family if you have one*), Financial and Business Goals!  *Just a suggestion, if you have a family its crucial to always include them in goal setting and planning and APPLYING!

After you have made your list, instead of making a plan of action NOW (you will eventually) list the reasons you believe you have not hit these goals before! Maybe 3-5 reasons why you believe in your heart and mind why you have yet to achieve them! THEN…this is the important part…find a mentor, coach, friend you trust for their absolute honest opinion who HAS THE RESULTS you are looking for, etc…and sit down with them and go over your list! Get suggestions (books, audio, seminars, etc) on how to hit these goals by applying the materials and resources and APPLICATION necessary to achieve them! And tadaaaaa…..YOU DID IT!

OK…so grab your paper and pencil and start writing down those goals. Then find someone who is further down the road than you, with the results you are looking for, and sit down with them and figure out how YOU (and your family) can hit your goals for 2014!!!!

Thanks for reading through my first “real” blog. I hope to get a little more ‘blogger savvy’ and add other pics and all that fancy stuff, so bear with me as I learn through the process. As always, have a blessed day!

Because of HIM….

Brenda

Brenda Hatcher on LIFE

To Live a Life of NO Regrets

How do you do that? Where do you start? How do you know?

Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, I think I found out last week.

The passing of the most amazing lady I have ever met brought the LIFE OF NO REGRETS….to life!

Jacqueline Lewis, wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend and my personal mentor passed away at the young age of 32 years old, leaving four beautiful children and a beautiful husband as well. But the legacy she left is a true sign of Living the Life of NO Regrets!

A funeral attended by over 1,000 people (in the middle of a Michigan blizzard with white out conditions and icy roads) and viewed by webcast by over 13,000 people begins to tell the story that Jackie lived.  I can say I have never been to a funeral that ended in a standing ovation! I have never been to a funeral where we had ‘leopard loops’ on our lapels to honor the ‘wild side’ of Jackie (she loved animal prints), I have never been to a funeral that ended with a testimony by the deceased that has brought many to Christ and will continue to long after she’s gone (which has been viewed by over 10,000 people all over the world) and I have never been to a funeral where a beautiful child stands at the side of her momma’s ‘hope chest’, laying peacefully at rest, praying and looking through a muted cloth at the mother she loved so dearly.

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This family had the pleasure of having their Momma next to their side 100% of the time. She didn’t have to leave every day to punch a clock. She home-schooled her children (rumor has it she had a thing for the principal too-wink, wink) took them to their extra activities, attended their events and was always there at their side. The only time Jackie truly left them was when she was out helping families achieve this same lifestyle. To help them take the steps to be a stay at home mom or dad. To experience waking up to your child, not an alarm clock. And what is truly amazing is that her husband was there all day too! They had a life many dream of and think is never achievable.  But it is, and for Bill and Jackie Lewis it was!

Jackie was more than just a great friend…she was my mentor.  Even though her age was that of my own children, she had the life I was striving for.  The solution is to learn from those who have what you desire. LIFE Leadership focuses on what we call, “Define, Learn, Do”… define what you want, learn from someone who has those results and go out and do what they did.  It is very unique and very seldom popular amongst business owners.  It would create competition and they don’t want that! But with LIFE Leadership we create leaders and help families go from good to great.  It doesn’t matter how many of those you have, great leaders or great families…you never have enough!

Jackie was my ‘go to’ person. Any questions I had she was just a text or phone call away.  Her absence has already been felt in so many ways. I am thankful for this leadership group that in the absence of Jackie there are still many other women I can ‘go to’ and get the same advice. But Jackie….well, we had a great connectiveness (is that a word?) that will be forever missed.  I will miss her texts…her “baaahhhaaaas”, her “suck it up cupcakes”, her “put on your big girl panties”, her “what’s up chica” and her “amen sista” and mostly her funny videos of people falling and tripping (thank God nobody got videos of her and I falling!) I know any one of us women who were privileged to know Jackie and to have her in our life will feel the same.

Jackie was not my idol…she was my mentor. She was an example of a great wife, a great mom, a great leader and a great friend. I recently read in this fantastic book, PAiLS-20 Years From Now What Will You Wish You Had Done Today?, by best-selling author Chris Brady, that art is a perfect metaphor of how we should build our lives.  Art is to beheld by gazing upon it. I gazed upon Jackie…I watched her move, I watched her speak, I watched her be a mom and a wife, I watched her converse with people from every walk of life….I observed her.  (No I didn’t stalk her-teehee)  I watched her because I wanted to have the results she had and her actions spoke louder than words.  As Chris Brady put it in his book, “People may listen to what we say, but they put much more stock in what they observe that we actually do.”  Jackie was a doer.

To my friend Jackie…I will ache for the emptiness in my heart, for the piece of “living art” that you displayed daily, for the silliness of your contagious laughter. I will thank God daily for the memories, the many lessons I learned from you and from watching you, the pictures, the videos, the special day when we achieved our goal of Round Table and was brought to stage by you and Bill, the trip to Vegas, Florida and many other destinations. I will thank God for answering our prayers to go to a million people, because I know in my heart YOU were his BEST SHOT to get there with the most impact on thousands of lives. And I will especially thank God that He chose me to be your friend.

Please keep Jackie’s husband Bill, and four children, Jacob, Eli, Bella and Nemo(Nihimiah), along with her family and many business partners and friends, in prayer for this huge loss in their lives.

You were my example of the Fruits of the Spirit…

Galatians 5:22-23 – But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control

So the question for you today is ‘are you truly living a life of NO REGRETS?’ because I know someone who was and I will strive to live that way until my final day of rest shall come. We never know when that day may come.  There is a TOO LATE….it’s just not TOO LATE….yet! (Thanks again Chris!)

God Bless you all….

Brenda